He talks about the thrill of competition and being part of a team.He came to me
because he was experiencing anxiety over recent performances and worry over his placement opportunities for
the coming season. They taught him to think, notice little details and make finer distinctions.These
feelings coached him to use his mind, as well as, his body to become a
more skilled and more competitive athlete.Anxiety over not meeting expectations had a different job. Anger
attached to a specific goal or result enables us to harness and ride that strength.When
connected with the fear of disappointing the people who believed in and encouraged him Johnny
discovered it had partnered with the desire to not disappoint himself. He loves to play
and play hard.The gleam in his eyes and the grin on his face when discussing
his favorite sports, track and football, are evidence of his passion. One such conflict is
fairly common in our society: Self imposed pressure versus Self-sabotage.Our goal was to discover the
positive intention behind the emotional pattern, receive its guidance or direction and then let it
go.Johnny described an intense pressure felt throughout his whole body with the greater concentration being
in his head, hands and chest. All of these patterns were designed to push and
motivate, each adding to the pressure until he felt it everywhere in his body, all
the time.These are the positive benefits of these emotional nike pas cher patterns, but it's easy to see
how relentless pressure becomes anxiety.Johnny clung to these strategic patterns because, in the beginning, they
actually worked. The more we want to get done or the more that needs to
get done the more pressure we apply, unconsciously.When we can't take it anymore we can
employ self-sabotage because it takes away all pressure, but indiscriminately, leaving us with no drive.
We use pressure to get things done. Though part of its role was to push
Johnny to work harder and practice more, it was also there to give him goals
and act as a guide in keeping him on track.Fear of not being enough came
to make him better by scaring him. They had come because they knew pain would
drive him harder than pleasure; they wanted to push him to achieve his goal of
being a great athlete.Anger revealed that it was there to make sure he didn't quit,
to show him he could be more, reach deeper and break through his own preconceived
limits. The pressure was created from anger, fear of disappointing others, expectation, not only of
self, but failing to meet the expectations of others, and finally, the fear of not
being enough.Johnny learned the purpose behind this particular set of feelings was to drive him
to excel. Johnny is a high school athlete. The paradox created is: Johnny, like most
of us, has nike tn used pressure as the driver to his goals and self-sabotage as the
escape mechanism when the pressure has been too much for too long. I've come to
take out the bad pressure; I've come to give you a break from the pressure
you put on yourself and the pressure you take on from others; I'm a temporary
escape from the pressure cooker.The downside is, when I take over I take away the
good pressure along with the bad. This is where Johnny was.Here's the good news. The
tug of war between pressure and self-sabotage becomes more intense and more frequent. He had
to get better because he's was scared not to. How many times have you heard
someone say, maybe someone extremely close to YOU that they work well under pressure?Now you
know why. She's an elite Master Trainer with world renowned peak performance expert Tony Robbins'
leadership programs. Once that purpose was fulfilled or the emotional pattern was no longer able
to produce the desired result, he was free to release it and choose another emotional
resource.He chose drive to be his best, the thrill of challenge, the intrigue of what's
possible and intelligent relaxation and renewal as the emotional patterns to guide him to his
goals in a healthier and more enjoyable way.Debbie Battersby, speaker & success coach, has helped
thousands of people transform their lives. His greater than average abilities were recognized by his
earliest coaches. This pattern was perpetuated because it worked.After prolonged and over usage the unintended
consequences accumulate and this strategy becomes less and less effective. Together they worked to make
him better, a better observer, a better strategist and better at executing any technique or
move he learned. In anger we are able to access a physical strength that can
elude us otherwise. High school sports are way more competitive than I ever realized.During our
session interview, several conflicting emotional states or patterns emerged. Johnny learned his emotional patterns had
come to serve him, to be used by him for a particular purpose. This is
not healthy; so along comes self-sabotage to counteract the mounting pressure.Just like exploring the message
of the previous feelings, we ask: "Self-sabotage, if you're presence has the intention of benefiting
Johnny, how? What good are you meant to serve?"The insights Johnny shared with me were
fascinating.Self-sabotage says, you can't handle nonstop stress without a breakdown. It was through over use
and misuse that they began to have adverse effects, which included loss of self-esteem, flagging
confidence and growing self-doubt.As we've seen, Johnny is feeling the pressure all over his body,
all the time. Her unique program, "Using Your 7th Sense" gives you the power to
grab more potential and ascend to new heights in your own life.Order her FREE e-book:
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